Having a baby is one of the most rewarding parts of your life, but it can also be rather stressful for everyone around you. Nine months of pain, mood swings, weird cravings and sickness will only stop to bring you sleepless nights and a lot of mess in your home. But a beautiful baby is worth the stress you go through, and they will quickly become your new favourite person in the world.
One of the big hurdles we all face when we are becoming heavily pregnant is sorting out our maternity leave. You can look at this employee maternity leave guide to see what the average time is you’ll be given as maternity leave, but it will vary from company to company. Some will offer very generous packages while others will go for the bare minimum.
Once you have left on maternity leave, had your beautiful baby and come home, you may be wondering how you will spend your time. Well, look no further, because we’ve rounded up some ideas for you.
Know what’s in your area
The first step to enjoying your maternity leave is to know what you can take advantage of in the local area. The last thing you will want to do is stay coupes up in the house for a few months and never seeing the light of day. You need to get out into the world, baby in tow and get some fresh air. You could spend some time reading at the park with your baby in its prom beside you or tied to your chest. Arrange to go out for a coffee with your friends and show off your baby while you catch up on life.
Get some help from day one
When you first become a mother and you take your baby out of the hospital and to your home, you are essentially being left in charge of a tiny human being all by yourself. It is a huge responsibility, and the chances are in the first couple of days you will panic, have no idea what you are doing and spend a lot of time on the phone to your mum. Instead of stressing out, get your Mum and Dad, and even your partner to book a few days off to help you learn to ropes. Your parents know what you’ve been through, they raised you. So take their help and watch what they do. You will find that watching what they do and copying it will help reduce your stress levels and make it much easier to look after your baby.
Know that it’s not a holiday
The thought of spending weeks or months away from work with your newborn child might fill you with an immense sense of excitement, but don’t deluded yourself that this will be a walk in the park, because quite frankly it will be the hardest few months of your life, not in a bad way though.
Don’t expect too much of yourself. You might think that you want to go and visit everyone you know to introduce them to your baby, but you might simply be too exhausted to socialise. Remember that you are only human and you can’t expect to be running around any more than you have to.
Make Mum friends
Now that you are a glowing mother of a beautiful baby, you can get back into the world and start finding other mothers in your area to make friends with. If you see a pregnant woman or a woman with a small baby in the ark, go up and strike a conversation. It can be a great thing for both of you to be able to speak to someone else who is going through the same thing. You will have funny stories to share and you will likely gain some advice too. You will find that you make friends with some really great people, and your children can grow up together too.
Work or Home?
The decision to go back to work or be a stay at home mum is one that you will take with a heavy heart. On the one hand, you could be leaving your baby every day to go to work and hardly seeing it grow up; but on the other hand you could be leaving your other half to provide solely for the family. It is difficult to decide what to do because you may want nothing more than to stay with your child. However, if you are struggling between the two, why not look and see if you can get yourself some freelance or remote work? You can work from home on your laptop with your baby right by your side, it’s the best of both worlds.
Test baby products
While you are still pregnant, start to try out some of her things you have bought for you child, this can include carrying around a sack of flower on your chest instead of a baby to make sure the straps are secure, checking toys to make sure they aren’t going to fall apart and making sure your pram is waterproof.
Get The Right Diaper Bag
No one ever said that Mum gear was pretty or stylish. Unfortunately most of the time it is the ugly ones which are the best value and which work the best for you. You need to make sure that anything you are carrying around with you is as comfortable as possible. There’s no point having a pretty bag which digs 8to your shoulders, you need to put substance over style here. You will have to just grin and bare the hideous bag you end up with, because at the end of the day it will do the job, and by the time you have your baby you won’t even care. The same applies to other bits of equipment you will need for your baby. It might not be pretty but it will work!
Hope these tips help you on your new journey to motherhood
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